My heart sank deep in my chest and my eyes immediately filled with tears just now as I learned from a radio report that the remains of Tim Bosma had been found in a rural area in southwestern Ontario.
Details will emerge. Questions will likely be at least partially answered in time, but the fact remains…a family has been shattered. A little girl just lost her dad. A young mother lost her partner. A family, a community – in shock and mourning.
My daughter caught some of the details of this sad case the other night by accident while the news was on TV at home. “Why did the man get into the truck with strangers?” she asked – her innocence and simplicity both striking and sad. “I don’t know, honey,” I replied with a heavy heart, suspecting at the time that this young man was neither safe nor sound. “I guess grown-ups need to remember to be careful when they talk with strangers too, huh Mommy?”
As a mother, I wish so much that my daughter could live in a world where she could openly trust others – one where I didn’t have to tell her how sometimes there are cruel people who hurt other people. I wish I could protect her beautiful innocence and have no need to warn her about watching her back. I wish…
But when heartbreaking stories such as Tim’s come to pass, I am forced to remember that we do not live in a perfect world and that it is my job to prepare my kids for it as best I can. The tragic loss of Tim also serves as a wake-up call to me. I too need to be diligent about protecting my personal safety – being “all grown up” doesn’t mean strangers are necessarily friends. I just wish it didn’t take the death of an innocent man to be reminded.
I send my deepest, most sincere condolences to the Bosma family. May all of Tim’s loved ones, neighbours and friends find peace, love and healing in the arms of their loving community.
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About this blogger:
Paula D’Orazio, RN is a public health nurse with the Early Years Health Program. Wanna know more about her? Read her blogs! She’ll tell ya! (She kinda likes to talk.)