From your baby, with love

Hi Mommy – it’s me again.

Baby sleeping on mom's chest skin to skin

Yes, it’s dark outside, but I can’t read clocks and all I know is that I need you. When I wake up because my tummy is grumbling, I need you.

I’m hungry.

And lonely.

And need to hear your voice and feel your touch.

The best thing in my world is your face and arms and warmth.

To me, you are perfect.

Beautiful.

Amazing.

Comforting.

You fill me up with love and food.

Sometimes I am so hungry I forget to be gentle when feeding.

Sometimes I am so tired I forget how to calm myself down.

Sometimes I am so unsettled I need to be held and rocked…and held and rocked…and held and rocked.

Mommy, I know you’re tired. When I see your tears fall and hear you whisper “How can this be so hard?  What do you want?” I wish I could tell you how good you are to me. Father carrying sleeping son

I wish I could tell you it’s OK to take a break from me – hand me to someone else who loves me, put me somewhere safe for 5 minutes, let Daddy give me my bath.

I wish I could tell you it’s OK to reach out for help, to talk to your doctor, and go to that group. I love you so much and don’t want you to suffer.

But always, Mommy, know this truth:

You are beautiful.

And amazing.

And enough.

I love you.

Love, your baby

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About this guest blogger:

Janet Siverns:

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I have worked as a Public Health Nurse with Halton Region for many years. On any given week you will find me at one of our Prenatal Nutrition (HPNP) or Adjusting to Parenthood (A2P) groups. I enjoy having supportive conversations about mental health. As a survivor of perinatal mood disorders (PMD), I have a passion for helping new parents navigate the sometimes challenging transition to parenthood. When not at work, I enjoy the company of my grandchildren  and going for walks with my goldendoodle Finnegan.

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Things are going missing…how to teach your preschooler to be trustworthy.

My friend had placed a box of chocolate bars for a fundraiser on her hall table. She was happy to see they were disappearing quickly and assumed her husband must have sold a bunch of them at work.

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5 essential tips for your child’s first dental visit

When I took my son to the dentist for the first time, he was about three years old. It was a disaster! And this was a child who was normally happy, agreeable, social, and who listened to reason! He did not want to open his mouth for this stranger (the dentist) and when he finally did, he started crying and the dentist could not continue. That was the start of many fearful visits to the dentist!

Looking back, if we’d started visiting the dentist earlier in his life, I feel he wouldn’t have been so fearful. I now know more about first dental visits and also about the care of gums and first teeth.  So I’m going to share what I know with those of you who are expecting, or have an infant, to help make your experiences more positive.

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The holidays are over… now what?

So here we are in a New Year. The hustle and bustle of the holidays are behind us – the decorating, shopping, gift-giving and entertaining are all done.  We hear all around us that it is time for new beginnings. Gym memberships beckon and headlines encourage us to eat well and spend less. I should feel energized, optimistic, and excited, right?  So why do I feel, well, flat?

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How grandma can be an awesome breastfeeding support

I remember how exciting it was for my husband and me when we had our first newborn! However, I also recall feeling overwhelmed by the exhaustion, breastfeeding challenges, caring for the baby and household chores! Breastfeeding and bonding with my baby were so important to me – but how could I do it all??

ENTER: my mom!

Happy Asian family at home

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All you need to know about vaping

Vaping is gaining popularity with youth. My teens claim everyone’s doing it and the statistics are showing a rise in use. In 2017, more Ontario students in grades 7-12 had used e-cigarettes compared to tobacco cigarettes. About one-in-ten students (around 80,800 in Ontario), report using more than just a few puffs of vape, with or without nicotine, in the past year.

Two women vaping outdoor. The evening sunset over the city. Toned image

Vapes also known as e-cigarettes , vape pens, mods and tank systems are battery operated devices that change a liquid into an aerosol that is inhaled.

An important question to ask ourselves is “should we be worried about vaping?”

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Keeping calm and carrying on for mental health

Woman sitting alone, deep in thought, having coffee and holding her mobile phoneAt work, in our kitchen, is a poster with words of inspiration – apparently. I however, have tried to purposefully avoid reading it, until the other day when I sat down for a meeting and it was right in front of me.

I am not sure what to think about this wall art.  Honestly, I find these messages unrealistic.  I also think they create pressure for us to be perfect. Continue reading

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