Quite often we hear about how hard it is to be a divorced parent, and it can be, but there are perks too!
When I think back to when my daughter and I were on our own, I have very fond memories. This is before I married my current husband, so she was between 18 months to seven years old.
Here are 5 AWESOME things I discovered along the way:
- I remember enjoying her all to myself, just the two of us, for several days in a row.
- I made all the decisions in the house. No one else to check-in with (except of course, my daughter) about what we wanted to do or where we wanted to go.
- After a long work week, she and I started a Friday tradition of pizza and movie night. We would spend time in the movie-rental store (I’m dating myself now!) looking for the right movie to rent. I was able to watch the entire collection of Disney princess movies while snuggled up with her.
- Every night, in the middle of the night, she would make her way into my room and crawl into my bed. I pretended to be asleep, but she would fill the empty space beside me and wrap her small arm around my side.
- In an effort to help her with learning the joys of reading, I read the entire Spiderwick Chronicles to her, in an English accent (just to add effect). We had a goal of finishing the book before the movie was in theatres. She and I then went to the movie and talked about whether it was true to the book. She still has the book in her collection, despite the shedding of many other childhood books.
These precious moments allowed me to create love and security for my daughter. Today, she is a teenager and it is hard to get her attention. This is normal and what I would expect. But the strong and loving relationship which was built in her childhood, created a young lady who feels comfortable in her own skin, yet knows she can always find support without judgement from her mom. I will always cherish these memories of just the two of us alone, but always together.
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About this guest blogger:
Jennifer Jenkins-Scott: I have been a health professional for 34 years, but more importantly a mother for the last 16. When I am not ‘on-the-job’, I can be found at Mohawk College working towards my certificate in Interior Decorating, on the bike trails, in the gym, skiing, crafting, entertaining or at home either reading a good book or binge watching Netflix.
Thanks for sharing your thought about the advantages of being a divorced parent. It’s really hard at first but you surely overcame it.